Two China Dolls and a Prince!

This blog chronicles the story of 2 of our adoptions, both older children when they came home. It begins in 2008 and will continue in the hopes we can be of encouragement and information to anyone thinking of older child adoption.

Sunday, March 1, 2009


It's 9:30 and do you know what I'm listening to??!! My new daughter laughing at my husband's antics in the bedroom when she's supposed to be sleeping. This is a miracle, guys, because up to now she's been one terrified kid! This was our day: we got to Kunming at about 11:35 am and met Jerry. He told us we would get Judi at 2:30 and that (get this!) they were bringing her to our hotel room! Then we discovered we needed the government fees in 4700 RMB so we had to rush to the bank and then went to eat at the BlueBird Cafe (it's great by the way!). We had a good lunch for about 200 RMB and it's right outside the hotel.
At 2:25 Jr and I looked at each other and couldn't remember if they said to meet in the lobby or they were coming to the room; I was so nervous I couldn't sit still! Finally, a little after 2:30 Dad went downstairs and sure enough here comes a knock on the door. They walked in with Judi; she is absolutely precious! She came in very nervous, remember we were told she knew we were coming and was ready??!! I don't think so! She sat on our couch but wouldn't let me or anyone touch her. She played with the stuff we gave her, but when the first lady left she started crying. She stopped again and kept playing but wouldn't maintain eye contact. Finally, we all came over to the desk and signed some stuff and the last lady and our guide slipped out. Judi didn't notice at first, but THEN she did. What ensued next was the temper tantrum of all eternity! She threw herself at the door, screaming and crying. She was also reaching for the door knob and the thing that locks the door. I stayed next to her, but she tried to slap and kick me away; I said "bu" at this point and she stopped trying to do that, but didn't stop screaming. Finally, about 30 minutes later, she wound down and settled back on the couch. Everything we gave her, she stuffed in that one corner of the couch and put a pillow over it. She's got a cold, too, and is on some kind of Chinese herbal medicine and guess what, amoxicillin!
After a while, she lay down, but suddenly popped up and looked at the window. She crawled up over the couch, laid across it and the window sill (we're on the 12th floor) and screamed for her nanny. I can safely say there appears to be nothing wrong with her intelligence! The things she can do are amazing! She does everything herself, even made up and took her own medicine; but she finally did let me put her water bottle top back on.
We had Dad and Jr go out and bring back food and I got her to eat a little; she kept going back to our couch and laying down. Then about 8pm we had a breakthrough! I got our Jazzy and her's matching pajamas out; it took a while, but she finally chose to change. She came to us in beautiful clothes, but 4 layers! She took all her own clothes off, but let me help put the jammies on (Yeah!!!). THen we laid the girls down in their sleeping bags. I got on the computer and all of a sudden I heard something incredible; she was laughing! She hadn't even smiled up to then! I snuck in and Jr was making her laugh by pretending to snore funny. Then they got into a pillow fight, Jazzy woke up, and now it's 10:30pm and we're all playing! She's still a little leery of me, but that will come; she appears to be a Daddy's girl right now. We're going to try to get these firecrackers to bed cause we're wiped; a long, emotional, up and down day! By the way, Judi's got the cutest little voice!


Mom 2 Joe, LilyRose, Mason said...

Oh Debbie,

I was so afraid of something like this happening. I wonder if they even told her about you guys at all. My heart hurts so much for Judi and for you. I am glad that she opened up a little. She must be so scared. I am sending prayers your way for a better day tomorrow.

I am sure when it's our turn we will be dealing with the same thing. I am sure my son Mason has no idea that we are coming soon. Scary, very scary. Thanks for the tip on the Blue Bird Cafe. I already wrote it in my book with the amount. How's the room?

Looking forward to your post and I hope that Judi will open her heart to you very soon. Judi is so darn cute. She's beautiful!!!

Love to you all

Lisa C.

Jen said...

Yay! I'm sure tomorrow will be better! At least she's laughing already. I bet she'll bond tightly with Jazmin!

Duchess of Lanier said...


What an amazing day! She does sound like quite the smart one. Especially since she knows daddy is supposed to be the funny one ;) Hope that you continue to make progress tomorrow on sister bonding and that her cold is better and better as you go.

Soooo excited! Thank you for sharing!


Tina said...

Bless your heart, I'm praying today brings new chances for bonding. I'm afraid Reed is in shock and today may bring some resistance since we haven't seen any yet.
See you and your sweet family in GZ!

Julie said...

Congratulations on Judi. I am sure by the time you get to Guangzhou she will be doing well. I can't wait to meet you all in Guangzhou.

Dixon Family said...

Oh Debbie,

Your story sounds a lot like ours. The good news is that it gets better and your Jazzy will be a huge help, like our Jack was. Now its two months later and John doesn't do things for him self anymore like he did at first. He's 4 and loves us to dress him or anything, he loves the attention. He screamed and called for his 'mama' also; they only told him on the way that morning to meet us.
Now, John doesn't like to be called his Chinese name anymore or look at his orphanage in pictures. He will say "I can not do China, I can not like china anymore". He just means that he wants to be a Dixon with us.
Judi will too!